Master the essentials of safe and consensual BDSM.
“I wanted to try BDSM, but I had no idea where to start.”
I wanted to try BDSM, but I had no idea where to start. Everything I found online felt overwhelming—too intense, too vague, or just not meant for beginners like me. I was curious, but also scared I’d do it wrong.
I didn’t know how to bring it up to my partner without feeling awkward. I wasn’t even sure what I liked yet, let alone how to explain it. Terms like “limits” and “safewords” floated around, but no one really explained how it all worked.
Mostly, I just wished someone could slow it down. Make it make sense. Give me a way in that didn’t feel like jumping into the deep end without a lifeline.
Talk the Talk
Learn the language of kink.
From safewords to subspace, we break down BDSM terms in simple, clear language—so you can feel confident and speak up about what you want.
Know Your Boundaries
Find out what turns you on, and what doesn’t.
Get guided through discovering your hard and soft limits, with prompts to help you reflect on your preferences and communicate them clearly.
Scene Basics, Made Simple
Understand how a BDSM scene works.
Step-by-step breakdowns show you how to set up a safe, exciting scene—whether you’re playing for the first time or trying something new.
Connection Over Performance
No pressure, just real intimacy.
We shift the focus from looking “experienced” to feeling safe, seen, and satisfied. This is about your pleasure, not perfection.
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“I read this together with my boyfriend, and we kept pausing to talk about how we felt about these things. It really made our relationship that much stronger.”
“As someone, who is very new to BDSM, I actually don’t feel that overwhelmed anymore.”
“I love how this guide made me feel, idk how to explain it. Thanks guys, I also sent you an email.”
“After reading it, I stopped apologizing for a lot of things I was doing.”
“It made me realize how much of BDSM is actually about trust, consent and communication and not just about the “spicy” stuff you see online.”
“Super easy to follow, even for someone like me who overthinks everything.”
“Helped me find some words for things I’ve been feeling for years.”
“The way this guide talks about emotions, consent and aftercare is 10/10. Kudos.”
“Actually got me excited to talk about BDSM with my partner.”
“Could be longer tbh, some things feel a bit rushed. Otherwise, I quite like it.”
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